Breaking up with girlfriends isn’t any easier than breaking up with a boy you dated 2.2 times or 2.2 years. In most cases I’ve found the conversations considerably more difficult and have come out on the other end with a greater sense of grief and loss.
We all have people we’ve drifted apart from over time. Priorities change, babies arrive, job opportunities are chased cross country, new loves or hobbies consume. Hakuna Matata.
What has challenged me a few times in so many years has been arriving at the place where you realize the person isn’t good for you, or you’re not good for them, or that things have shifted in such a way that the relationship isn’t what you signed up for and it’s best to walk away.
I’m fascinated by the unique way individuals handle stressful situations, how different our experiences are and how much I can learn from others successes as well as their mistakes.
What I’m interested to know is this: have you ever broken up with a friend? Do you drift off/begin memory sanitization sequence? Do you have a candid conversation? Does it depend entirely on the situation/the person/duration of the friendship or how ballsy you’re feeling?
Do tell, I want to learn.